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Creator of Save The Marriage CLICK TO HEAR A MESSAGE FROM DR. BAUCOM
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Lee Baucom, Ph.D.
Author Of Save The Marriage
From: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Let Me Tell You About Kelly and Greg...
When I first met Kelly, she and her husband, Greg, were literally driving to the attorney's office to sign their divorce papers when they decided to stop at my office!
They
were ready to end their marriage of 14 years.
For some
time. . . years actually. . . neither had been happy. There had
been attempts to change, but things always fell
apart.
It had been years since either Kelly or Greg felt good
about their relationship.
In fact, for some time, they had stayed together just for the kids.
Does this sound familiar to you?
There was much sleeping on the couch and in the spare bedroom.
They were constantly battling over the smallest issue -- which only led to bigger issues.
Threats
and yelling were an almost everyday thing.
They both
desperately wanted to be accepted and loved, but neither
felt it. The more each tried, it seemed the further they moved
apart.
They had tried therapy, self-help books, seminars.
But nothing seemed to make a difference.
It seemed as if they were stuck in a vicious cycle. They knew they needed to change things in their relationship...but they just didn't know how.
I'm not going to convince you that I was able to undo years of fighting, struggling and disappointment in a day. But, with what they learned in my office that day, they decided to put their impending divorce "on hold."
Within a
few weeks, there was a dramatic
transformation in their
marriage...
There were no angry arguments that went nowhere.
There was no "living like roommates" or sleeping on the couch.
There was No name-calling or tearing -down of each other.
Their, previously sexless, marriage saw sparks of true pleasure and intimacy again.
Last week,
Kelly called to invite me to
their anniversary and
"re-commitment" ceremony!
Most marriage therapists are not trained to be marriage counselors.
They receive their training in traditional, individual therapy, and add marital counseling to their practice... after the fact.
In other words, most marriage therapists have little expertise in helping a troubled marriage.
And, when they do offer marital counseling, they are, usually, applying outdated, ineffective strategies that were never intended to help truly troubled marriages.
This
is why the best marriage counselors see a
success
rate of only 20%. . . if a medical
procedure was that
risky. . .
it would be outlawed!
I know from experience, because I too was frustrated with such a low rate of success. I sincerely desired to help my clients to save their marriages. But, the techniques and strategies I learned in school seemed to be making things worse!
Once I realized that "traditional" methods of marriage therapy don't work, I determined to find and create strategies, techniques and methods that do work.
It led me to abandon much of the "old school" ideas about how to help troubled couples...and so should you!
Before you can begin your journey toward saving your marriage, you need to stop buying into The Four Most Damaging Myths About Saving Your Marriage.
Do you believe any of the following?
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Anyone
Is Capable of
Transforming Their Relationship
Impossible as it may seem, I have created techniques which transform relationships... even when only one person is trying!
My typical client is a spouse that wants to save their relationship when their partner has already "given up."
Most therapists work from the assumption that, if only one person wanted to work on the relationship, it was impossible to fix.
I don't approach marriage crises this way. I approach them like an algebra equation. If one side of the equation is changed, the other side must change!
Incredibly,
my clients have achieved a better-than-90% success rate. . .
even if only one spouse starts the process!
With Kelly
and Greg, it was Kelly who started the process. She found me on
the internet , downloaded Save the Marriage and began
the process of saving the marriage. . . by herself.
Greg
was still bent on a divorce, but Kelly still had hope. . . and
took action.
Fairly quickly, Greg was less insistent on the
divorce, but still assumed it was their only option.
Eventually, He agreed to spend that hour with me, in person. . . leaving their divorce attorneys waiting.
You may be wondering. . ."When Is Saving The Marriage Impossible?"
I
have witnessed relationships come
back to life after
affairs, bankruptcies,
dishonesty, deception and mid-life
crises,
and just about any other roadblock.
Couple after couple have proven that it is possible to change a relationship and rescue, just about, any marriage from the edge of destruction.
These couples have not just avoided divorce. They have transformed the marriages into something wonderful. . . something better than they had dreamed possible.
Anatomy Of A Marital Crisis
No marriage crisis appears overnight.
Rather,
the crisis builds slowly over time. One person is, usually,
caught completely off-guard. . . not realizing there even was a
problem. The other claims that he or she is tired of trying and
trying. . . with no change. . . and has "given up."
You see,
the real damage is done when one person needs
and expects something to change, but the other person is
preserving the exact same things. For example, there is often a
desire for a shift in the power structure of the relationship,
but one person resists making any change. The other person who
wants the change becomes more and more frustrated.
This
leads to a pattern where one spouse suddenly announces that
the marriage is over, and the other spouse is unaware that
there even was a problem.
If
I had a dime for every time I was told,
"I thought
everything was fine, until my spouse
asked for a divorce".
. .
Unfortunately,
the "not knowing" has been translated into "not caring" by the
dissatisfied partner and seems to provide proof (for someone
looking for proof) that the marriage is over.
More
marriages die from neglect than anything else. Often, it is
simply a matter of life getting in the way. Strangely,
something as important as marriage gets ignored. More than
that, the relationship shifts from suffering with neglect to a
growing animosity and antipathy.
On our wedding day, no one
expects their marriage to fail.
And when people rate their priorities, their marital relationship always ranks in the top 3 or 4.
But,
according to research, couples spend on average less than 4
minutes per day talking about issues that do not include
schedules and the kids.
As neglect sets in, this lack of
attention eats away at the relationship, slowly eroding the
capacity of the couple to form a substantial relationship.
At
this point, it is inevitable that issues
will arise that
create marital crisis. . .
The
issue may be another person, a job change, a shift in
life circumstances or stage. When it comes, one or the other
feels the hopelessness of the situation, and moves to resolve
the crisis by getting out of the marriage.
The Stages Of A Crisis
When the crisis is in full swing, it sometimes takes awhile for the other spouse to respond.
But, I discovered you can use actually this fact to create a path back to wholeness.
Too many other programs treat the way back to happiness as only one path.
I
believe there are 8 distinct paths and each must be
dealt with completely differently. What is helpful at one stage
can be destructive, or at least counterproductive, at another
stage.
I have created a unique and different path for each
stage.
These paths
have been tested and retested,
and proven very successful for
my clients. This is not
"pie-in-the-sky" theory. It is
tried, tested,
and re-tested.
It is critical you know which stage you are in before you begin making changes.
It is entirely possible to do the right thing at the wrong time and cause more problems.
You need to know EXACTLY which stage of crisis you are facing. Only then, can you begin the healing process. Otherwise, it is probable you will inflict further damage on your relationship.
The innocent
beginnings of a crisis
(neglect, lack of understanding,
etc.) can
quickly spin into a crisis that puts the
entire marriage at risk. . .
At this point, the trajectory of the relationship can become unpredictable.
But, the path back is predictable.
A marriage can fall apart in a million ways.
But, a marriage only recovers in one, predictable way. . . there is only one path back. The specific steps on that path may vary (depending on the stage) but the "way back" is the same.
This is
the emphasis of my work. . .
the path back.
I have isolated the path back from the verge of destruction. . . all of the way to full recovery of a marriage.
You can't just take the relationship back to "where it used to be." This is not enough.
Couples cannot simply get back to where they were when the marriage got in trouble. The marriage always had the beginnings of a crisis.
Instead, it needs to get to a place where the marriage is insulated against any future crisis.
Achieving an "average" marriage isn't enough. . . you want and need an exceptional marriage!
It's not just about avoiding divorce. . . it's about creating the marriage relationship of your secret dreams. . .
It's not enough to avoid divorce.
Who wants to be in a "mediocre" marriage relationship?
Most couples believe that their marital problems mean that they are destined to , at best, have an "okay" marriage.
This could not be further from the truth. You don't have to settle for anything less than the marriage relationship of your dreams!
In
my experience, your current marriage crisis
can be the
catalyst for "a new beginning" that
will make your marriage
stronger and
better than it has ever
been.
In fact, this is my true goal.
I won't feel satisfied unless as many couples as possible are experiencing everything that they always expected from marriage.
Recovery to average is not good enough.
I have helped hundreds of couples to rescue and transform their marriages and, I want to help thousands more to create exceptional marriages!
This is why I recently sat down and wrote a new book...
"Save The Marriage"
As I said earlier in this letter, I was shocked to see that there were so many (virtually) useless "save your marriage" guides offered online.
Unlike my book, most of these "guides" are written by ghost writers that are hiding behind a pretty picture. I am a "real, live" person that you can actually contact (see the bottom of this page).
And, the guides written by actual professionals are, for the most part, based on tired, old and ineffective "traditional" theories of counseling that only achieve 20% effectiveness. . . . when used in person, in a therapist’s office!
I
felt as if I had to make available the
unique, different
and (most importantly)
effective secrets that I had
discovered
in my practice.
My goal is to save as many marriages as possible.
Chances are, you will probably not have the opportunity to visit me, in person.
But, I can still provide you with the information and the assistance you need to really start saving your marriage. . . through Save The Marriage.
Together,
through Save The Marriage
(and the included
email consultation),
we can save your
marriage!
Save The Marriage will give you an understanding of what happened to your marriage, how to save it, and how to start creating the marriage of your dreams.
You
will benefit from my, nearly, twenty years of working with
clients, in person, and literally, thousands of couples in
various settings.
Don't expect hundreds of pages that
just reiterate what everyone else has already said.
Instead,
I have made the ideas and information readable and easily
understood. No "psycho -babble" here, just the facts, ideas,
and actions you need to save your marriage. In 170 pages, I
will tell you what went wrong, what to do to change it, and how
to do it.
Starting tonight. . . in fact, in the next 10
minutes, you can start saving your marriage and moving
toward the marriage relationship you
always dreamed
about.
Can you imagine how wonderful it feel
to, finally, eliminate the fear, anxiety and stress that
currently envelopes you. . . and replace it with feelings of
love, joy and contentment?
You don’t have to imagine it. . .
because, with the secrets and strategies you will find in
Save The Marriage, you will be solidly on the path from
marital frustration to marital bliss!
Don't
take my word for it...
A small sample of what others have said about this book...
What Others Are
Saying:
"A
terrific resource..." "I
have been reading the first few chapters and am
very relieved to find such a terrific
resource... ...It
really fits with the direction I've been taking,
personally and with clients."
(Just a few of
the hundreds of notes
provided to us, all telling us
the same
thing: This Material
Works!)
-Nancy
T.
hope.."
-Brad
R.
"I sat and read your book last
night. I read from about 7pm to 12am. I am
amazed! After reading, I have a whole new outlook on
our marriage. After reading, I am prepared to
make the necessary changes and shifts in order to
have the marriage I've always wanted."
-Mary
Beth M.
...I was
convinced within the very first chapter as I
could see the truth of it in my own life
and relationship..."
-Anthony
J.
"For the record... let
me just say that your book is the most
sensible, real, self help book of any kind that I
have ever read...
My
relationship with my husband has gotten so much better
!! thank you, thank you thank you"
Just Some Of What You'll Discover...
The Top 5 Mistakes people make when a crisis
arises.The "real" secrets to a healthy, stable,
loving marriage.How to assess the stage of your crisis (there are
8).How to address any stage of a crisis and turn it
around.What to do, what to say, and what to avoid in order
to save your marriage!Why "hard work" on the relationship isn't always the
answer. How marriage counseling can be dangerous to your
marriage's future.Why "low mood therapy" is destined for failure
and how "high mood relating" makes the
difference.How to move beyond emotions and take
action!How to find the North Star of your relationship, and
why it matters.Why true intimacy is a lot closer than you
think--and how to get there!What "the TIE Elements of Communication" are,
and how they can transform your communication.How to change the momentum of a relationship,
sometimes instantaneously!
What the Practices of Marriage are, and how they can
transform your relationship.Why arguing is a waste of time -- and the
amazingly simple secret to get around it.How to become a team, even if you feel like
opposites. Why power is so destructive to relationships
and how to change it.How to deal with problems involving sex or
money.How to make paradigm shifts (literally, quantum
leaps!) in the relationship.Much, much more about how to transform your
relationship.
How to begin saving your marriage beginning
in less than an hour, maybe in less than 10
minutes!In short, how to have the marriage of your dreams
.
Here's my offer:
Try the secrets in Save The Marriage.
Then, at your leisure , utilize its secrets to save and transform your marriage.
If you are not absolutely thrilled with the dramatic improvements in your marriage, just let me know and I'll promptly and courteously refund 100% of your money - with no questions asked. . . for an entire 60 days!
Your only requirement is to use the material for a full 30 days, just to see the power of the simple secrets. That’s it! Give it your best shot, then I will offer you a. . .
100%
Unconditional 60-Day
Money Back Guarantee
If, for any reason (or no reason at all), you decide this book hasn't transformed your marriage. . . I will refund every penny you paid. Furthermore, I'll even let you keep the book (and the bonuses) for your trouble!
So, as you can see, you will be making your marriage everything you ever desired. . . at my risk. . . not yours!
This
book has been described as one of the most radical and
important sources of relationship saving strategies
and techniques ever written.
Whether you are simply
frustrated and disappointed. . . or on the verge of divorce. . .
this proven information will help you to turn things
around. . . quickly and easily.
What you have seen in this letter is only a small fraction of what you will find in this book.
Plus,
to give you every possible reason to take
action
and discover the secrets in this book,
I am going to also give
you 4 Additional Bonuses Guaranteed to Make A Huge
Impact
On Your Marriage. . .
Because this book is only offered in an electronic, e-book format, you can begin your journey of marital happiness and fulfillment immediately. . . even if it's 2 AM in the morning! Plus, you never have to worry about facing the lady at the register in the book store. Your purchase is in total privacy and your personal copy of this powerful book will be downloaded to your computer in less than 2 minutes!
And, because you don't have to pay for printing or shipping, I can charge you significantly less than I would for a "hard copy" version of this book
Your total (no hidden charges) investment in the future of your marriage is only $49.97! I will soon be raising the price to $129.97, but right now, the price is extremely low.
You can think about it like a commercial:
Cost of an hour of therapy: $60 to $150 (multiply that times 100, the number of sessions in 2 years of therapy.
Cost of an average divorce: $30,000 (not to mention the ongoing losses and emotional toil).
Cost of a great marriage: PRICELESS!
But I’ll give you more, just to make the value incredible. My bonuses are not some ebook that has nothing to do with marriage. My bonuses will guarantee you success.
Plus...
Bonus 1:
Free Email
Consultation My
standard rates for counseling are $200 per
hour.
($95.00 Value)
For
a limited time, I am including a FREE email
consultation.
Every
marriage situation is different. This email
consultation will give you the ability to "put it
all together." After reading Save The Marriage, you
will have the opportunity to ask me,
specifically, any questions that you may
have.
Bonus
2: The 'Quick-Start
Guide To Saving Your Marriage' Report I have
taken my Stage Of Crisis Diagnosis and converted it into
a very powerful report that will help you to
establish EXACTLY which stage of crisis your
marriage is currently in. It
will then prescribe a path to recovery based on
that particular stage. This
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Bonus 3:
The 'Top Five Things
NOT To Do When Your
"natural" reactions during this critical stage of
your marriage crisis are,
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that most people make in this situation. Making
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Your Partner Wants Out' Report
If your
partner has told you that they "want out," you must read
this report!
Bonus 4:
The 'Dealing With
Anger And Resentment' Report This report
is cutting-edge information about the origins of anger
(not what you think), and what to do about it.
I
have covered how to deal with your own anger and
resentment. But, more importantly, how to deal with
your spouse's anger. This
report will provide you with tools to use in
dealing with two emotions that absolutely eat away
at the foundations of your
marriage.
As
a bundle, these four bonuses are worth more than I am charging
you for Save The Marriage!
These bonuses are only being offered for a very limited time. So, be sure to order so that you are certain to get both the book and the bonuses (including a free email consultation)!
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After clicking the purchase link, you will be taken to a SSL (Secured-Socket Layer) Protected page that requires a small amount of information. This page is hosted by Clickbank, the safest payment processing company on the internet. (In fact, we will never even see your payment information.)
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That’s right. You can start the process, and in less than 10 minutes, you will be reading the information you need to start saving your marriage, regardless of what time it is, day or night, and regardless of where in the world you are located. Think about it: in less than an hour you can have your strategy in place on how to save your marriage.
Don’t wait another second. It is time to begin to save your marriage. My powerful information will give you the exclusive information you need to begin saving your marriage THIS SECOND!
The
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but only YOU can take
it!
I have created the resources you need to save your marriage. I have made it so that you can access the information anywhere in the world, any time of the day or night. I have guaranteed that it will work. But the final action is yours. Only you can decide if your marriage is worth the small amount of effort necessary to turn it around.
If you are ready to save your marriage, CLICK HERE!
Faithfully,
Lee
H. Baucom, Ph.D.
Relationship Coach and Marriage
Expert
P.S. You may have skipped right to this point. If so, here's the offer in a nutshell. You get your own personal copy of Save The Marriage that is 100% guaranteed to help save your marriage. . . starting within the next few minutes.
Plus ... If you order now, you will also receive A Free Email Consultation with me.
Plus ... If you order now, you will also receive the "Quick-Start Guide To Saving Your Marriage" report.
Plus ...I will also give you the "Top Five Things NOT To Do When Your Partner Wants Out!" report.
Plus ...You will receive my newest report, "Dealing With Anger And Resentment."
And.
. . if you order during this limited-time offer, you receive
all of the above for only
$49.97! (This is an
introductory offer. I will soon raise the price to
$129.97.)
Lee
H. Baucom, PhD,.
Coaching, Counseling & Consulting
4949
Brownsboro Road, Suite 147
Louisville, Kentucky
40222
502-802-4823
